change you life change your world

it is true that we should adjust our selves and also face the problems or happiness like a foresightedness.we can change ? what ? in true sense we are wholly  dependent on others, on our senses, likings. we are not independent. although we got freedom on 15 AUG 1947 but still we are dependent. dependent to our parents, teachers,bosses, if we politician so our god father, if religious so our gurus.you can change these circumstances but when you are married and she is totally against your nature, thoughts, activities, so there is no option . in such circumstances you are dying every moment . how you can change your self or change the life. if one is soft and other is harder so only way is to compromise. for compromise whole life wasted and you remain in trouble. in this way your life will be changed but you will not changed.
one is fire so how much water you will showver. the  change of life is easy to say but to apply in action is a tedious task.you must be unattached or detached with worldly desires .my own experiences are that if you are living with your beloved or enmity both are harmful   to you. to apply equanimity  in your self is very difficult. if you will renounce the family and relations . some one said that the fiery wife, young widow daughter, lend your money to other and expectation of food to others are equal to dead in living state.
you can not change your self, nor change life so adjust your self with the circumstances. and try to be happy in own self. do not try to please other. satisfaction is the end of progress. and expectation is the causes of sorrowfulness